The Pain of Rejection

~ by Marti Melville

Waterski wipeouts and rejection from a publisher, an article written by Marti Melville

I can’t draw. Creating a beautiful piece of art is absolutely not my thing.

I can’t waterski either. 

Honestly, I’ve tried both – diligently gave each the “ol’ college try!” It didn’t work. After my last failure at trying to stand on one ski, half immersed and hauled through lake water at 40 mph, I decided that would be my very last involuntary enema! It hurt and I hated waterskiing. This news is laughable to someone who clears the wake without giving it a second thought. Okay, then…

I can snow ski, however. In fact, I ski pretty well (given my father was a three-time Olympic skier, I had lots of practice). But I’ll never waterski…and I’ll never be an artist.  An exceptional team helps to publish the books at Doce Blant Publishing

Those are the hard facts and the day that I accepted them was a day that I was able to relax and move onto things that I can do.

There will always be “things” in life that each of us can and cannot do. Desire doesn’t always cut it. That’s a hard fact too. Some are born with the gift to sketch or paint over canvas, some have insight and understanding to build corporations or perform intricate surgery, others can write.

But some people (many who have a burning desire and real motivation)…can’t. It’s not their thing.

One of the most painful events any publisher faces is having to tell a well-intentioned author that their manuscript cannot be accepted for publication. It hurts every time I see that happen because I know how it feels. My first manuscript was rejected many, many times. But it’s never personal. Never!

Even with the right vision, the proper motivation, and all of the positive energy possible, sometimes a manuscript just isn’t the right fit for a publisher. This doesn’t mean that there isn’t a publisher out there who may be looking for exactly that ms. But the square peg doesn’t fit in the round hole always. 

Rejection is painful, but it’s a blessing because that single event can be the catalyst that sends an author to the right publisher – the right fit. Success will come for both publisher and author when eveything meshes and the mechanism of story-author-publisher unite. 

Rejection is part of every author's experience per Marti Melville of Doce Blant Publishing

Every author has experienced rejection…EVERY author has. Any writer going through the pain of rejection must first understand that they’re in a good group: Writer! The more difficult piece is to recognize why. The answer to “why?” requires some difficult self-evaluation – painful even (just like an unexpected waterski enema). From that, if the writer is honest with himself, he may discover that writing just isn’t his thing. Even if the writer truly believes and really wants it…writing to publication may just not ever work out. 

This isn’t a commentary on the value of the writer (remember, nothing personal), but rather a commentary on finding out what that writer really does best. Another self-examination, some trial and error, and voila…he may just discover hidden talents that outshine a passion for writing. 

My advice: never give up, but at the same time, don’t give up on discovering that one thing you do best. Don’t put on the blinders to possibilities elsewhere because you desperately want to look in only one direction. You may not have discovered just what that is yet. Keep writing, painting, enjoying a day at the lake, studying anatomny or business, or just riding along with another’s success for a while. You’ll never know what you are magnificent at if you don’t allow yourself to keep looking.

Perhaps it’s waterskiing.

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